Issue with a friend

Hey there, i have an issue and i need advice, a friend of mine that was my first gf is friends again. we had a brutal break up and it was nasty. i was 16 and she was 15. we broke up after 6 months.

anyway, about a year ago, we became friends again. she went to work at Cedar Point last summer and remained friends via phone and AIM. anyway, she came back after the summer and i saw her on campus and she looked HOT!!! we were friends still but things started getting rocky around November. we had a huge fight the week of the super bowl. i had recently helped her with a major paper so i figured we were good friends. i sent her a message inviting her to come over.
she messaged me back and said, "why would i come hang out with you? you are annoying!"
i said "well what about the homework i helped you with? was i annoying then?"
she was like, "That's different, homework is different!"
then i said, "So you are using me huh? FINE! have a nice life B****" (censored that. i am sure you know what i said)
so i blocked her, then she tried messaging me with like 3 more of her 10 screen names! i am not lying, she has that many! i just ignored her and let it go.

well, last month i got a message on my answering machine with her asking to unblock her. so i did. now we are talking and i am just worried she's going to use me again.

is it okay that i am talking to her again?

what should i do?

sorry for the long post... i hope it's okay... i just need advice...

First off, when you mean you helped her with a paper, do you mean you wrote a majority of it? Or did you help her out with like talking points? Did she thank you?

Personally, if a good friend asks me for help, I don't throw it back in their face if I ask for something. I help because they're my friend. I don't ask for anything in return. But again, that's just me. The fact that you mentioned she's hot and that you asked her to come over sounds like you don't want to just be friends.

I say relax for a bit and think it over. If your relationship was volatile before, it might be again. Don't force anything because it won't work.

It's okay that you're still talking to her, but you have to make sure you're keeping it friendly. Otherwise, the friendship won't work.

Also, don't be a sucker. If she asks you for favors, just say no to them. Don't give a reason, don't barter. Basically, just let her know that you can say "no" to her.

That'll at least put a premise in place for her not to abuse friendship and try to use you for anything.

Sounds to me like it's been on again-off again with her. With her statement about you being annoying, perhaps the times you've been on with her you've been a bit too attentive. So, make sure there is some breathing room in the friendship.

It does sound like she's putting in a lot of effort to just use you for homework; sounds to me like she wants something more than that, whether its just friendship or dating again.

CreepinDeth said:

First off, when you mean you helped her with a paper, do you mean you wrote a majority of it? Or did you help her out with like talking points? Did she thank you?

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i wrote about a second half of her paper and she didnt say thank you... not right away, but she did eventually.